If there is something that affects our lives negatively it is a low self-esteem and self-confidence. When you are not feeling good about yourself, you will fail in almost everything that you try. Anyone who lacks self-confidence will find it difficult to become successful. How to improve self-esteem and confidence? Self-confidence means self-efficacy. It is the art that makes people press on whenever they face challenges. Here are some tested ways on how to improve your self-esteem and self-confidence.
Identify the source of low self-esteem
Several reasons have been identified to cause low self-esteem. A lot of research has associated low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence to be associated with a series challenging experiences. A feeling of constant failure makes the affected persons feel demotivated to press on. Drugs and associating with the wrong group of people is another main cause of low self-esteem. Several other causes may be identified depending on the person affected.
But here is a good deal. You can overcome those troubling moments to boost your self-esteem. Take a pen and write the reasons you think you are losing your self-confidence. For example, a crisis at home, a friend said you are ugly or any other thing. This is the first step in boosting your self-confidence.
Filter your thoughts
The reason you have a constant lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem is because you let the nagging thoughts of the troubling situations occupy your mind. After you realize the situations that make your condition worse, the next step will be choosing to keep away from memories that hold you down. By choosing I mean, learning to ignore all the thoughts that might bring you down. For example, if you someone said you are ugly, filter those thoughts and avoid a constant reminder of the insult. Create rational thought by beginning to believe in yourself rather than allowing past experiences to take charge of your life.
For the lovers of boxing, they can agree with me that this is a no-nonsense career. A boxer gets to the ring to face the opponent, however, muscular he or she is. In the ring, it’s either you get punches, or you send punches to the competitor. This is the same thing that happens in our lives. Situations will send us blows right into our face. We fight; sometimes we may fall and think that it’s over. But if one is trained to fight, you will be ready to wake up and face the challenges.
The reason you might be feeling low is because of the heavy blows resulting from the difficult moments of our lives. But look….. Situations get worse if you do not wake up to challenge them. Today if you want to build self-confidence and improve your self-esteem, you have to let it go anything that is nagging you. You must choose to fight and keep feeling good about yourself. After all, happiness is the most important thing you can have in life. Therefore choose to feel good and be happy.
Feeling can be mistaken
It is a common thing when people confuse what they feel from the fact. “I cannot be a good speaker as my boss. I am not beautiful. I always make mistakes” these are feeling that we get each day. They are referred to as negative self-talk that is experienced by all those who suffer from low self-esteem. They devalue us and make us lose self-confidence. Do you have such negative self-talk?
NOTE… feelings are not facts. To those who understand the physiology of emotion, they can agree that feeling is controlled by the limbic system and are under the influence of hormones. Feelings come and go while facts remain. When you think you are not beautiful, someone else is admiring and hoping to be like you. That a fact. When you feel you cannot stand and give a speech to an audience; someone out here is wondering how you manage your job and your family. In short, I mean there is something beautiful in you. THIS IS A FACT. Avoid jumping to the negative conclusion that destroys your self-confidence and lowers your self-esteem. Walk shoulders high because you are unique.
“I choose to be happy” is the first thing I remind myself every morning. It encourages me and helps me re-label any negative thoughts that might come my way. When I face a challenging situation, I take it as my responsibility to encourage myself and avoid being carried by the stressful life and lose my self-esteem. If someone says that you are not beautiful; smile and tell them you have a beautiful heart that they cannot see. Give credit to yourself and choose to remain motivated.
Several techniques can be discussed on the best ways to improve self-esteem and self-confidence. But there is one single trick that sums it all. Self-esteem and self-confidence can be improved by choosing to remain positive. It is therefore our responsibility to live our life happily by choosing to grow our self-confidence daily, and this will boost our self-esteem.
How is your self-esteem and confidence today? Please share with us in the comments.