After shattering experiences, it is quite common to have a low self-esteem and confidence. You tend to degrade yourself and have low self-respect. You can build your self-esteem and confidence after damage. Self- esteem is learned during the initial stages of life. Some childhood experiences interfere with the development of self-esteem especially abuse and criticism from caregivers and parents. Some children are stigmatized for various reasons such as unusual appearances, race, class, physical disabilities, etc.
It is vital to note that even grown-ups with a high self-esteem can have some experiences that challenge their confidence. A well-developed self-esteem can be broken by perceived failures such as physical health concerns, losing a job, failing relationships, legal troubles, etc. Many people do not know how to build up their self-esteem and confidence after damage.
Cognitive behavioral therapy can help a person put such events in a perception where he/she can be able to work on the strengths to increase resilience, hope, and social support. CBT has been well researched, and is proven to be effective in improving self-esteem and confidence. It is brief, active, and problem-focused. Unlike other therapies, cognitive behavioral therapy aims at the problems that are taking place at the moment. CBT for low-self esteem and confidence include the following treatments.
This is a combination of identifying unhelpful thoughts and replacing them with positive thinking patterns. Cognitive restructuring for low self-esteem focused on recognizing the negative opinions and distorted thinking about oneself such as labeling oneself as a loser due to negative events or skills deficit and transforming them to positive thinking.
People with low self-esteem avoid those activities that broke them. They fear to lose again and hence will avoid those situations at all costs. This limits their opportunities to be rewarded. This may lead to depression. Behavioral activation reverses this trend by helping people to re-engage in the activities that led to their downfall and thus have rewarding experiences.
When a person has remained in the state of low self-esteem for long, he/she tends to feel helpless in many occasions. The problem-solving training aims to help people regain a sense of agency by training them to identify problems, resources, potential solutions, and apply effective plans.
Social skills training
Low confidence and self-esteem are goes hand in hand with social skills deficits. Social skills training aims to assist people improve rewarding and positive social behaviors and decrease the negative social behaviors.
Individuals with low self-esteem are unable to say what they want boldly. They tend to say no to requests often hide their true feelings. Assertive training focuses on helping people to learn how to get what they want from other people skillfully and effectively without forgoing their relationships.
Cognitive behavioral therapy aims at a certain goal. This treatment helps a broken person challenge and then modify the negative beliefs and thoughts. It focuses on transforming unhealthy and unhelpful behaviors and thoughts. As the name suggests, cognitive behavior therapy is a blend of two therapies, cognitive and behavior therapy.